Video Games are a Waste of Life

Our current society is broken, we let teens and young adults waste their youth spending their best physical years sitting at a desk or staring at a screen. We are supposed to be using our bodies to build things, compete, go on adventures, and meet as many real people as we can. Now people are a slave to their screens, feeling miserable and hopeless despite living in a rich world of video games where things that wouldn’t be possible in real life are possible in a game.

So many people on reddit claim that you cannot waste time if you do something that you enjoy. This is such a stupid way of thinking. The reason why video games are a waste of life is because you are essentially being manipulated by a Skinner box like a rat. Video games trick you into thinking that you are accomplishing goals but in reality, you have no impact on the world. All those hours into video games go to waste. Sure maybe it was fun, but eventually after 100 hours into gaming, it becomes less fun and more like a job. A job that doesn’t even help any real person.

It is important to build things with your hands. Call Newport from the book *Digital Minimalism* spoke about how humans learned to think by doing things with their hands. So if we spend all day in a completely abstract world, then our thinking degrades, and so does our satisfaction in life.

It is not really young people’s fault that we are in this mess. People are not allowed to play outside like they used to. Their lives now have to be more structured. Some parents put their kids into sports, but not all do. Parents who put their kids into sports tend to do better physically and socially. But not every parent can afford to put their kids into sports and those kids suffer. Maybe it should be mandated.

It is sad to see so many kids waste hours upon hours into video games. They could be developing skills, gaining experiences, so they can laugh about for years to come, and having meaningful relationships. But instead, they are nurturing an addiction to a light-up box. Giving kids phones and gaming consoles is like injecting a drug into your kid. You set them up for a life of compulsion and escape from meaning. You are destroying your kids’ lives by giving them these devices. However, most don’t have a real choice since modern life is not what it used to be. CPS will be called if you leave kids alone for too long, and we don’t teach kids how to hunt or fight anymore.

Don’t let anyone tell you that there is no meaning to life. Those people are miserable, unsuccessful 30-year-olds who want to drag people down to their level. The meaning of life is simple: Make an impact on the world physically and socially, in real life. You don’t need a PhD in philosophy to understand this, you just need common sense which people no longer have.

Anxiety

The only real way to deal with irrational anxiety is some type of exposure therapy. I struggled with anxiety all my life. I worried about having different opinions from other people, and they would make fun of me if I didn’t agree with them. I hated not being able to express my true thoughts, and one person commented on how boring I was, constantly trying to agree with every position. So I went to online chatrooms and shared fake opinions that I knew would upset people. One of them was that vaccines caused autism and I upset this one guy who had autism. His mom believed it, so me saying this brought up negative past experiences for him. This caused him to rage at me which made me feel bad, but I pushed through it. Years later we are still on good terms, and I am now able to say whatever I want even if others react harshly.

The same occurs with other actions. I used to feel intense anxiety before my internship, but after I made it a routine the anxiety disappeared. The more you do something, the less anxiety you feel. The more you avoid something, the more your brain learns that what you are avoiding is dangerous. I can’t believe the answer to my lifelong problem was simple. Not easy but simple.

Power

The only three things you need in life to be happy is sensory stimulation, emotional bonds, and power. Every human activity can be catorgized into these three things, and most of what people do is related to power. School and work is all about power, even the caring professions. Many people deny wanting power, but literally everyone wants it. If you can’t get power in real life then you can play video games or invest in fantasy stories. It doesn’t really matter where you get your power, all that matters is working for it and being able to witness the changes you are making to the world.

Many women who are super into make up and fashion have high power needs. Why do so many call their make up empowering despite it not giving them any concrete power? It is because they are taking control over their own bodies when they feel out of control in their personal lives. People with high power needs get very neurotic when it comes to cleaning and their physical appearance. They need to take control of everything to feel as much power as possible because they never have enough. People with low power needs don’t feel the need to fix every minor flaw of their appearance or living space.

Many shy and physically weak people get power in less obvious ways. Nerds use intellectual activities and video games to gain power. Debating is a replacement for physical fighting. Some people will spend their whole life seeking esoteric knowledge to create a niche that no one else can fill so they won’t be replaced or have competition.

Some people combine social connection with power. Many think that those who go into caring professions such as teaching, nursing, and psychology are doing it because they like to help people, but if they really just liked to help people they would be satisifed with helping their family and friends. The only reason anyone does any job is for power. Why else would you spend so much time on a single task if not for power?

Many teachers are attracted to teaching because young kids are very susceptible to influence, and you have the chance to influence so many kids in a school setting.

Many teachers will subtly get their students to believe what they beleive. Some are aware of this, but not all are. Therapists can act as mental health experts in and outside of the therapy office. It is such a hot bottom topic these days so they have plenty of opprotunities to use their credientials to their advantage.

Strength of the Generations

Older people look down on today’s younger generation and talk about how people are so weak and sensitive people are these days. While it is true to some extent, today’s generation also has some hidden strengths. Most baby boomers could not handle the amount of existential crisis today’s young people have on an everyday basis. People today also have more opportunities to explore their darker, vulnerable selves, when past generations were expected to tough it out. That may seem stronger at first, but in reality it is just a coping mechanism that prevents you from exploring your demons.

Older generations are better at dealing with physical hardship, having less stuff, and even dealing with emotional abuse. People in the past didn’t have a concept of rights or consent. Men saw their children and wives as property. They had more institutions of meaning such as religion and more community, and a more rigid lifepath. They had less freedom, but also less existential doubt.

Now people are more conscious of basic rights and more sensitive to insults. People in certain places don’t have to only focus on mere survival, now we have a new challenge of finding meaning in a godless world. To do this you have to be more emotionally open. It does mean being more open to your emotions, which is what is causing over sensitivity in today’s political arena. Maybe these people can learn to balance their emotions with the outside word, but that will require deep inner work that most people can’t be bothered to do.

Illusion of Objectiviety

People are attached to the idea of objectivity, whether that is religion, a political ideology, or science. I do believe that there is an objective physical world. People expect objectivity in places where it cannot exist. , and pretending that something is objective when it is not has dangerous consequences. We saw this when people thought religion was the objective truth. Religion was used to control people, it promoted slavery and sexism. People think AI will solve human bias, but a racist AI has already been invented.

Everyone has a bias. A scientist who has worked on a theory for their whole life has a bias towards that theory being correct. If the theory is proven wrong, then all their hard work was for nothing, and that would be a devastating loss. Psychiatrists cannot let themselves be too aware of the fact that the chemical imbalance theory is wrong because their medical debt is too large to abandon their practice and find something else to do. Politicians support policies that benefit them and get them the best vote, not always what is best for society as a whole. CEOs have a profit motive, helping their employees and society is secondary.

My concern for the future, with AI becoming more and more integrated with society is that people will assume these AI are 100% objective when they are not. People still choose the pools of data, and the parameters chosen to make the decision. The parameters will be my biggest concern. If the current average employee isn’t black because of past racial biases, then some AI will pick up that the ideal employee is white, which clearly does not get to the heart of what a good employee is. Similar things will happen with different types of decisions. Turning everything into a math problem is not the answer as math cannot solve human problems.

There is no objectively best society. What benefits one person will often inherently harm another person. Less taxation will benefit a rich person who does not need welfare and most government programs, but it will harm poorer people who need benefits to stay afloat. There is no way to reconcile this. True equality cannot exist. Not everyone can own a house by the beach because there is not enough space, if everyone wanted a house by the beach the government would have to find a way to decide who gets to live there, and most governments use money to decide this. People with more money are the only ones who can afford a beach house, which leaves less competition. Imagine having it be an equal first come first serve basis, then the waitlist would literally last a century, and rich people would probably buy their place in line anyway. Resources are not infinite, so there has to be criteria to determine who gets what. There is no objective basis of who deserves what, it essentially becomes a fight oh who wins. People’s world views will create a scenario that makes their side have the upper hand, even if they lie about wanting everything equal and fair. If something says they want what is best for society they mean they want what is best for their interest group.

Most people assume that their own opinions are the objective truth, and get offended when people don’t share their same opinions. People raise their blood pressure to because other people are wrong. Everyone is incorrect about some things, even you, get over it. People need to be okay with being wrong, you have to be wrong before you become right. It’s important to admit when sources are biased. Everyone has their own agenda. A scientist and the government can say incorrect statements sometimes. I wonder if different people are more likely to believe in different things. It’s just annoying when people attack you for having a different view before listening to your reasoning. Of course you shouldn’t be so open that your brain falls out, but people shut down anything that isn’t mainstream. If you question something like psychiatry, then some people will think you are a delusional freak despite you having solid evidence against it.

Therapy is Artificial

Whenever anyone online or even in real life talks about any emotional problem, you hear tons of people advising you to go to therapy. But how many people can really afford $100 per week just to talk to someone? Of course there is insurance, but then you have to get a diagnosis that could hurt your chance of getting certain jobs or from getting into the military. And don’t forget to mention the stigma certain mental disorders such as BPD and NPD have.

Of course therapy is helpful for people who have suffered deep trauma and need specialized attention, but even then there is risk for abuse. Therapists, psychiatrists and psychologists are in a position of power and no matter how good their intentions, their words have an impact. If the patient says the wrong thing they can even end up being involuntarily hospitalized and drugged against their will. Personally, I do not feel comfortable talking to the therapists with the understanding that confidentiality may be breached if therapists thinks it is for my own good. A therapist can be very wrong about what your own good is. If you are put in a mental hospital without insurance then you are going to go into debt in the spirit of mental health. We all know how how good financial hardship is for mental health. Not to mention how some people could lose their jobs over getting thrown in the psych ward due to missing too many days. Knowing this, it’s just irresponsible to encourage everyone and their mother to go to therapy without knowing and being able to navigate the risks, especially vulnerable people with mental illness.

Therapy is not a natural social interaction. I once called in to ask for a therapist, and one of the first questions she asked was “Are you suicidal?” This should never be one of the first things you say when you meet someone. This question was probably asked for liability purposes, but it is still never okay to ask this in my opinion. Most people will lie due to discomfort of telling a stranger something like this. No human feels comfortable when they first meet someone, so you are basically spending the first few therapy sessions paying a lot of money to see if you can become comfortable with the therapist. This is not the best financial decision to make because people need to get to know someone before they can reveal their vulnerabilities to them, which can take a while.

The real cause of most people’s suffering is lacking in person connection and community, not liking their job, feeling like their life is meaningless, abuse, and bad diet and no exercise. Most people would suffer way less if they addressed these issues first. I think most people go to therapy for personal connection. If you share a problem with your friends, your friends just tell you to go to therapy. It is more natural to have people who you actually know in your life help you. It’s important for the person helping you to share information and struggles in their life so there can be a mutual back and forth. Therapists are encouraged to share as little information about themselves as possible, which puts you in the more vulnerable position without the therapist sharing their vulnerabilities. This makes the relationship have no equality whatsoever.

Of course therapy does help some people, but it is important to explore the negative sides to balance the blind praise therapy constantly receives in our culture. Therapy is not for everyone, and I am sick of people constantly suggesting others to go to therapy without understanding their situation.

Signs you are mistyped in socionics

1. You relate more to your MBTI type than your socionics type.

MBTI is a much simpler and more inaccurate system than socionics, so for someone well versed in socionics, it doesn’t make sense for you to prefer that type. Many people mistakenly think that MBTI crosses over to socionics, but there is no one-to-one correlation. This causes people to think that socionics is just a weird version of MBTI when in reality they are describing two different types.

2. You make multiple exceptions for why you are a certain type.

It’s easy to become settled on a type, but with further exploration you find many aspects of the type unrelatable. Now, it’s normal to not relate to every part of the type, no one is a carbon copy of each other, but you should relate to a good amount of it(unless you have an insanely warped self image or are delusional). For example say someone types as LII, but then they say they like conflict, and care about efficiency, and makes a lot of quick judgements about people’s character, and just say these are exceptions, but at some point there are so many exceptions that you are no longer the type in question. It’s tempting to try and say those aspects of the type are inaccurate, and the theory is wrong, but why should we overhaul the whole theory because you’re the only person it’s not accurately describing? The reality is that you need to pick which type fits you the best, and if that is not the type you currently identify as, then you need to reevaluate.

3.You become extremely defensive anytime someone questions your type.

Of course it’s natural to want to defend your current typing, but at the end of the day not everyone is going to agree with you and it’s best to accept that. But I’m sure we all know of at least one person who throws a fit anytime someone suggests their current typing is inaccurate. It doesn’t matter how reasonable you are, or how many screenshots and pieces of evidence you send, they still won’t budge on their current self perception. Some can even become aggressive, and accuse you of trying to mislead them. If the mere suggestion that you are another type gets you angry, then it’s time to take a step back and think about why you are having this reaction.

Ego

The ego is one of the most fascinating subjects of psychology. I think it is a vital part of who we are as opposed to something we need to repress like many religions seek to do, after all narcissist’s whole personality was created by trying to protect their ego. It is clearly important.

The dictionary definition of ego is: “a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.”

At first glance this can seem shallow, but it’s not. If someone does not feel important that will cause them not to go after their needs and goals, and even cause people to stay in abusive relationships or not seek to improve themselves. I think a major problem in this world is that many good people don’t look after their own self interest. Now I am not saying we should all go out and be selfish and not care about other people, but pretending that the self doesn’t exist is just not beneficial or even accurate. It doesn’t matter how many spiritual enlightenment books you read, there are differences between each and every one of us.

Freud said that the ego was responsible for the individual’s safety, which really interests me. If the ego is needed for safety then why are people trying to get rid of their ego? Maybe this is why mammals developed consciousness in the first place. When people lose a part of their identity, their whole world shatters, what evolutionary benefit does that have?

Whenever I try to think of purpose everything comes back to ego. Like the Bible says, we need to be obedient and do what God says. Knowing he has a plan for you sounds meaningful, but in a way, it is kind of humiliating. Like many people need to do things that society doesn’t value to keep it working, such as taking out the trash every day, which is one of the most important jobs, but it’s never anyone’s dream job because it’s not what you see in the movies. Slavey is another and more extreme example of this. Slavery benefitted society by providing cheap labor to produce large quantities of crops, and it helped boost the economy. Slaves have done important work, but of course, no one wants to be a slave because it is an inferior position, and brings people zero status or freedom. When people say they want to benefit society they are really saying they want society to look up to them. They are thinking of powerful CEOs, and great scientists and engineers, and philosophers when they think of people who have benefitted society, but they forget the people who do important everyday tasks. People spend their lives doing things to make themselves look superior to others even if it’s painful or has no real tangible benefit.

Many people suffer years through medical school to become doctors, some do it for a desire to help, others cause they are interested in the subject, but I’m sure we all know of at least one med student with the desire to impress their parents and have a high-status job. Becoming a doctor can also give you authority and control over others. Being a doctor is just as important as being a garbage collector, but one brings higher status and the other doesn’t. Of course, what is deemed respectful in society changes throughout time, and people will adapt to that standard.

I do think ego is the main driving force that encourages people to search for a purpose. It’s even a major drive for having children. Dying is the ultimate destruction of ego, but having kids can give you a legacy and the delusion of immortality. Many people feel like they are currently not doing anything important in this current life, but think their kids will end up doing something more important which makes the parents special and important by proxy.

Introverts can’t be Enneagram 7

I know this is a controversial opinion, but I really don’t think that introverts can be a 7.  People will complain about how I’m mixing the systems, but the systems are meant to be mixed. If we can’t mix the systems then we can’t use typology knowledge for any real understanding. It’s like saying that you cannot mix the circulatory and nervous systems. Yes in theory they are different systems with different structures and purposes, but in reality they both interact, and affect how each other perform. The same applies with typology. Enneagram and Jungian cognitive functions are two separate systems that explain different things, one coping styles the other spheres of attention. To say that one system does not affect the other is absurd. If one person has a particular childhood, that will cause them to become a certain enneagram type, and their enneagram type could then have an impact on their other types. Systems and personality don’t exist in isolation since the human mind is complex and everything interacts. Psychologists use the big five for everything, which is a major case of mixing the systems. Even the people who tell me not to mix systems mix the systems because it is impossible not to.

There have been studies on how introverts typically want less stimulation and extroverts typically want more. If introverts want less stimulation then why would they frequently exhibit the behaviors of a 7? It’s surprising how many people in the typology community don’t understand introversion and extroversion beyond how social one is. One person seriously told me that MBTI introversion was just how social you were and socionics was more and they gave me a link describing introversion and extroversion in socionics and it was similar to what we used in MBTI circles. Then later they told me that they didn’t understand MBTI. So people are speaking before knowing what they are talking about, which isn’t all bad since this is part of how you learn, but just keep that in mind for your next internet argument.

Many enneagram 7 descriptions describe 7s as extroverted, and use other words such as spontaneous, versatile, and novelty seeking which are typically associated with extroverts. Now some introverts could have these qualities but are much more common in extroverts and extroverts will have more of these traits. The correlation of extroverts being social is a side effect of neurological differences rather than the core of what being an extrovert is. When reading about the 7 I see running away from oneself, which reminds me about what Jung said about extroversion. He said that extroverts feared their inside world and introverts feared the external world. We can clearly see fear of their internal world in the 7.

I can’t blame people for the misconceptions because we are still learning about what makes up and causes these personality traits, but I think anyone who studies personality should know that how extroverted you are is more than how social you are. That’s typology 101.

 

Socionics Quadra and Economic System

Alpha and Beta – communism

Alpha would be a more friendly, commune type of communism where they have those nice aesthetic houses, and they smoke weed and have deep conversations. Beta would be more of a large scale communism and more focused on an enemy outside of the state where they all band together to defeat some evil.

Gamma and Delta – capitalism

Gamma would be more focused on large corporations and dominating the world. Delta would focus on small business, and create personalized goods and services.